Confidently & Unapologetically Self-Defined | Mind-Shift Pt. 3

I've really been picking up on the growth happening within me lately. My mentality and perspective about things have shifted. I now respond and approach situations attentively. Every day it feels like I'm flourishing more in depth. I'm discovering more about myself as the days come and go. It's not necessarily a weird feeling, but it sure gives you a front seat to take notice of how you're evolving. I take pride in who I am as a woman, what I want out of my life and how I want my presence to be remembered. With all of that comes the art of conquering within through my own acceptance. Welcome to part three of the mind-shift series. Today's post is about validation.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. There is no one on this planet who can tell me who I am. Seeking validation is like asking other people to tell you what you're worth. I won't accept no one's definition of my life, I define myself. The things I used to trip on, I walk over now.

Throughout my life, I have been in situations where someone has boldly tried to tell me about who I am like I didn't even know myself, but people will always try to criticize who they think you are.

I used to ask myself all kinds of questions trying to figure out why people would think of me the way they did, but that never changed anything. I grew to not even care about people prejudging or misinterpreting who I truly was. Every single one of those people didn't deserve to know the real me.

I've reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste time with what displeases or hurts me. I have no personal space or energy for cynicism, excessive criticism, and toxic auras. I have no will to be guilt tripped to appease others comfort zones. I refuse to allow myself to coexist with pretense and above all else, I will not put forth my patience to areas and people undeserving.

You will always be too much of something for someone. I am secure in who I am. If I believe I can achieve my wildest dreams I don't need anyone else to believe me. If I think I want to dip my toes into a new field, I will. If I trust in myself, I don't care who else is against me. I'm walking my path led by God and I will always walk in the direction He tells me to go, even if I have to walk alone. It's a freeing feeling when you live life concerned more with how you listen to God rather than if anyone else will understand a call not meant for them.

If my confidence makes you believe I'm arrogant, so be it.
If being positive and making the best of my situation makes you get the idea that I'm perfect, then I'm perfect.
If you don't take the time to sit down, dig deep and get to know me, that's your loss.

I don't want my tone to come off rude but I'm more concerned with what I contribute to the world than if people like me. I get what I get because of faith and obedience, and I will not let anyone discredit how God decides to bless me. 
I don't mind a difference of opinions, but I do mind hate.

Being unapologetic means that you will be all of who you are. Don't shrink or compromise yourself by playing small so others won't feel threatened in your presence. Show up for your life and don't be ashamed, because at the end of the day nobody can tell you how to live your own life. Stop accommodating others and don't feel sorry for your power. Be proud of your achievements, be happy with how far you've come, take pride in good news and celebrate small victories with just as much enthusiasm as the huge. Don't bottle your greatness in, let it reach out and inspire those who need it.

Here's to fiercely and confidently owning all of me, unapologetically.

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Ashley Avenu. Jeremiah 29:11.