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Life Is Always a Mirror

One of the most healing things you can do is recognize where in your life you are your own poison. This could be in any area. It's honestly hard to confront our own flaws because it's much easier to put the blame on any and everything else but ourselves. It is imperative to acknowledge when we are our own poison because it forms cancer that grows to blind us from seeing that sometimes the problem is you. There has to be a point reached where we start taking ownership of the issues we cause ourselves. If every situation is one that's against you in any way, isn't that a clear indicator that maybe something needs to change? It should be.

There are many people who are stuck in their ways. So stuck that they never consider that maybe, just maybe they could be the problem. It's always everyone/everything against them.. and there's never a dawning moment of realization that there are areas in their life that need some serious nurturing. 

Checking yourself and your heart is big-time growth. When you do the inner work you allow yourself to elevate to a new and higher level. You have to be real with yourself and get honest about the areas that you need to change. Now, I'm not saying that you need to change who you are as a person entirely, but insisting on considering taking a deep look at yourself and see where you're coming up short. There is always an area that needs a new seed to be planted. Water it by taking the time to fix the environment, mind, heart, and soul, for your situations to bloom.

I am a firm believer that life is always a mirror. Anything unresolved within our energy field will keep manifesting itself in our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual lives until we fix it. There is no escaping this. You are bound to repeat patterns if you do not heal them. Inner work is necessary. A simple and effective tool to change your life situations is only speaking what you wish to be brought into existence. Start taking note of the words that you are putting out into the world because those words could be the outcome of where you are coming up short. Your words create and you can not change what you refuse to confront.

You are always presented with a choice: evolve or remain. Choosing to remain unchanged, will be presenting the same challenges, the same storms until you step aside and truly learn from them to stop the cycle you've created. Choosing to evolve, connects you with the strength to explore what lies far beyond what's comfortable.

Be a mirror for your life. You want better? Be better.

Many things in life are uncontrollable, but I've noticed that the few that are controllable we see them as one in the same because we don't like to admit that we are wrong in those cases. That break through you insist you can't get won't just fall in your lap. Yes, it's on the next level, but only after you decide to put more effort in on your part. It's the same in all aspects of life. You want better friends? Make sure that you are being a better friend. You want better outcomes? Make sure that you are genuinely doing right by other people and etcetera.

Sometimes you are the reason nothing is going how you'd like it too because you're standing in your own way. Instead of complaining about how everyone else contributes to why nothing is going right, check yourself and truly learn from how you are contributing to the destruction. Also, be okay with people or situations that are simply not meant for you and accept disappointment without consuming yourself in resentment.

Life is always a mirror. Bask in love and light. Let your aura be a reflection of where your heart is resting. Choose to evolve.You are your greatest asset. When you take care of you, your life takes care of itself.


  1. Every point in this post is bang on truth Ashley. Today's church service sermon was similar to your post right here. Honestly this is a goal and something I've been working on so hearing it at church and reading your post is a confirmation to me. Great post and enjoy your day.


    1. Thank you! I'm glad that you were able to get clarification of what God is trying to tell you. It's amazing how he shows subtle signs of direction that he wants you to see. Happy conquering! Have a blessed day Mavis.

  2. Were always told to be conscious of those we hang around with but we spend 100% of our time with ourselves and fail to check ourselves. Then we get caught up in complaining about areas of our lives instead of using the same energy to change it!!! - x

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    1. Yes! Exactly. The same energy we put towards protecting our space from others is the same energy we need to have with holding ourselves accountable when the protecting gets personal.


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